commandments of sort | #9 | Oct 23, 2023

Grant application season got me stressin, but writing is a nice break from non-stop coding and the dark abyss that is staring at VS Code for hours on end. Writing in single-column format is significantly less satisfying than writing in double column papers. Huge IEEE format fan. 

I am extremely excited for Halloween since my Yor costume just came in >:) I would have loved making it myself, but unfortunately I do have (vague) priorities. 

Reigniting my Hinge and Bumble has been a super... interesting journey. Honestly I am not in the relationship phase of my life yet, so just talking to people has refined my view of what it means for me to be in a good relationship. Maybe I'll list some criteria here that I have developed over the past few days, weeks, months, and years.

In no particular order, aside from generally being a respectful and good human:

  • Is a nerd about something, anything... I have so many hyperfixations about random topics, if someone else cannot contribute to my knowledge hoarding, it will be difficult for me to feel connected. Also entertain my periodic existential thoughts :) I think it will be very difficult for me to date someone not in the STEM field at this point.
  • Understanding of their insecurities. I'm not about to be their first therapist, please :').
  • Isn't negative all the time!! We all go through shit, being negative makes it so hard to vibe 
  • Regularly lets their inner child out. I'm not a very serious person in many cases, and I feel like seriousness does not correlate to success (this is different than being mature). Humor match is essential, good texting energy is a huge bonus
  • A vague understanding/appreciation of at least ONE form of art. This encompasses music, visual art, painting, dance, photography, etc. I'd def prefer if they practice at least one of them (because I jump between them often). Bonus if they are trying to improve/progress their skills in one or more of them
  • Takes care of their own fashion + hygeine! I like to put effort into how I dress and present myself, I hope they took the time to do their own research on how to do these things, and I hope they don't rely on other women in their lives to do these things for them :/
  • Prioritizes the friendships in their lives. Life is nothing without a support system and friends who you show apprecition for and connect with. I don't want to date someone doesn't have their own friend group because...what are you doing?
  • Is active in some way!! Any way! I don't care! I like to lift and go jim, but I hope they pick at least one and do it regularly :)
  • Likes cats. Because I have 2. I take Zyrtec to live with them bc I am allergic.
For anyone who would like to throw hands with me, I think I bring these things to the table too >:(

Research Update: Coadvising is going extremely well :) I think I have a dream team of advisors and I finally feel optimistic/motivated to begin the long trek of a PhD. Honestly this mindset is new to me. I don't think I've felt so un-lost since I started. I finally have defined interests and goals, and research directions that I have created myself :).

Lifting Update: I accidentally squatted 200 for 3 and it moved SO WELL. I thought I was doing 190, but I forgot I changed the bar to 35lb in the app, so I just loaded 200. I think squat form is finally clicking, I pushed my hands much much closer together now and it feels so incredibly stable, no weird forward lean and back strain!

Dance Update: I want to get back to dancing so badly, but my leg still hurts :( I learned part of the Super Shy dance to perform at a friend's bday party but it was actually so fucking fun to perform. I got to teach my friends and it was so satisfying. 

Crochet Update: The granny hexagon is getting larger...results await. 

The shampoo I've started using smells so fucking good, I also love Missing Person by Phlur. Big scent person rn. 



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